Hatred.......Wikipedia defines this as " a deep and emotional extreme dislike that can be directed against individuals, entities, objects, or ideas"
and Freud describes it as " an ego state that wishes to destroy the source of its unhappiness."
But why this 'extreme dislike' and why the ' wish to destroy the source of unhappiness' ?
I think this base and extremely negative feeling stems up from an inability to rise above the source of unhappiness and a feeling of helplessness in making the situation better.
Considering the above two factors, inability and helplessness, as contributing to the feeling of hate, it is clearly a profound weakness that can be converted into a great strength if the contributing factors can be reversed.
The first step in achieving the conversion of hatred, in my view, is to introspect.
To look within ourselves and observe ourselves with a keen and impartial eye so as to see the situation or whatever it is causing hatred in us with an objective view.
In order to achieve this the most important thing to is to detach ourselves from this negative feeling.
And to do this, the best and the most popular way is to take a deep breath and count to 10!!
If we can succeed in having an objective view of the source of hatred, it immediately ceases to be personal and that diminishes its strength by half.
This may take a lot of practice and I would suggest you not to lose a single opportunity to introspect and have the tail of this unwanted emotion in your tight grip.
Now that we have been able to detach ourselves and notice the cause of hatred, not personally but objectively, the next step is to observe, if whatever hatred we have is helping make things better.
99% (let us leave the 1% as an imposed negation) of the time the answer is no.
All hatred does is to cloud our consciousness with a strong dislike that prevents us to think with a clear and a rational mind.
And surely, anything done without being clear headed and rational is done to make everything worse.
Now then, how do we solve the problem as we are not allowed to 'destroy the thing that causes unhappiness'?
It is by rising above the problem that the solution appears. By looking at the problem from above, not by drowning in it.
We have learned how to be objective and we have learned how to detach ourselves. After having learned the above two, we automatically put ourselves above the problem. That is when we can be sure of thinking with a clear mind and tackling the situation rationally. And when we are able to tackle any situation rationally, we no longer feel helpless.
The feeling of helplessness is converted into the mastery of handling any situation and the inability becomes the power of standing above all that troubles us. And the result, is hatred conquered.
If you have other methods to beat hatred, please share them in the comments below.
And kindly give your valuable feedback.